Did I pack enough snacks for the playdate? I wish I would have handled that conversation with my partner better. I wonder if my kids will grow up be well adjusted.
Picture yourself moving through your day tackling each issue as it comes, free from dwelling on past events or worrying about what tomorrow holds. That is the power of presence. It’s the ability to play with your kids and actually look at them, enjoy that moment that will fly by (whether you’re paying attention to it or not).
The most simple route to being present is getting out of your head and into your body. Here are four things you can do right now to re-connect with your body and be present.
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1. Body focused meditation and breath work
My favorite meditation practice is focusing on your how your body feels. Find a comfortable seat and close your eyes. Begin with relaxing the muscles in your toes, next your feet, then ankles, legs and make your way all the way to your head. This type of focus will help you determine where you’re holding tension in your body. Anytime you get distracted by thoughts of worry or life concerns recognize them and let them go focusing back to how your breath feels coming through your nose and out your mouth.
Bonus tip: engage your sense of smell by burning incense or a candle.
2. Self cleansing, self massage or self moisture application
Although facials and massages are helpful for a myriad of reasons, those services can be more mental relief that allows you to zone out. Alternatively, self cleansing, self massage or moisture application can serve as a ritual to help you discover how your hands feel on your own skin. Focus how the product smells and how it makes your skin feel. Ev’yan Whitney talks in her podcast about how the process of touching your own skin can even help during times of low desire.
Bonus tip: use products that have a refreshing aroma or diffuse/ apply essential oils and recognize how the aroma resonates with you.
3. Change something about your appearance
Now, I do not make this suggestion with the idea that there is anything wrong with you. I present this option as a way to remind yourself to stop and recognize when you look in the mirror. Recognize that you are worth looking at and deserve to give yourself attention.
Recently, I was introduced to the concept of mirror work by the always inspiring Natalia Benson. Mirror work is when you meet your gaze in the mirror and tell yourself everything you’d want someone else to say to you. This is a powerful practice to help cultivate self-love. A small physical change like a haircut you’ve always wanted or lash extensions can facilitate the opportunity to change brief checks in the bathroom mirror to see if you look “acceptable,” into a reconnection to your body ritual.
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4. Intentional eating
Finally, consider taking yourself out to eat. Sit down with some intense food you enjoy, whether that be something dynamically spiced, rich or sweet. Recognize how it tastes and makes your body feel.
Bonus tip: leave you phone in your bag and try to grant yourself the respect to stay distraction free.
The point of all these practices are to pull you back into this vessel that feels and supports you all day. Last of all, thank your body for all it does for you. Another powerful lesson I’ve learned from Natalia Benson is that gratitude will always help reduce stress and increase presence.
I hope you find these rituals to be actionable and helpful. Does one of them resonate with you the most? Which is your favorite? Leave it in the comments below or share with my on my Instagram!