Often in the morning, I never hear an alarm clock. Before it can even go off I have a newborn crying for my attention, a toddler asking for food and a house in disarray. “Being busy” can be overwhelming. I can easily be taken over by everything (and everyone) pulling my attention in several directions. I’m searching for my already cold coffee and rushing around in an exhausted fog. Ritual free, aimless and panicked. Does this sound familiar? Knowing self-care is good for your body and life is not enough. Figuring out how to reject the glorification of busy work and put my time into the people and things that matter remains essential.
Visualize this for me.
Close your eyes and picture waking up before your littles. You drink a large glass of lemon water on your night stand, stretch and head towards the bathroom for your morning ritual. Bringing your attention to yourself, you massage your face with your cleanser and rinse with warm water. You walk through a mist of cooling toner and awaken your facial muscles while applying a rich moisturizer. You sit and drink your HOT coffee while setting your intentions, listening to your breath or focusing on a certain mantra. You can greet your children as they wake, clear minded and the best version of yourself.
If that exact scenario isn’t your cup of tea, picture what morning routine would give you the mental space to experience your whole day in peace. What would diminish the chaos and the crazy and help you feel empowered to handle anything. What would make you feel less buried by motherhood and more in love with the journey?
For you: What would that morning experience mean for the rest of the day? How would this small morning act of self-care make your day include more joy? More peace? More present moments with your family?
What is the importance of creating self-care morning rituals and how will they change your daily life.
- Increase your confidence and self-worth.
- Make you a better mother, partner and human.
- Encourage feelings of fulfillment.
Three steps to make time
First, sit and write down the most valuable people and things in your life. Make sure that they actually bring you joy and make you a better person. Rate them based on importance.
Imagine the things that could make you happiest. Write down these intentions. Why do you want your morning to look that way and what motivates you to move in that direction?
2. A Hard Look
Next, take a look about at what has your attention throughout the morning.
For example: Games on your phone, picking out what to wear, social media apps, preparing lunches, trips to get coffee, working out or answering emails.
How do all of those things bring you closer to your intention? Rather, do any of these time consuming activities take you further from your intention?
Make cuts. This will be the hardest part. But if scrolling pinterest mindlessly stops you from meditating or purchasing sugary cereal prepping a healthy breakfast then maybe it’s time to let go. If you cannot cut something because it is essential, make sure you’re doing it efficiently so that you have time for the most important things.
3. Build and implement
Create a process around the morning self-care rituals you’re hoping to implement. Most importantly, gain support from your partner. Figure out exactly how much time it will take and prepare the time.
For example: yoga, time outdoors, stretching, hearty breakfast, a morning skin care routine or meditation.
Finally, only implement one process at a time and always allow yourself some grace. If it’s not working after a week, adjust.
I’ve been there, friend. I know the non-stop “mommy’s” and the feeling that there’s not enough time. I can tell you this process works because that visualization we did at the beginning is now how I spend a good amount of my mornings.
I believe you want to take care of yourself. Use this three step process. Learn what is important for you. Then embrace that intention. Cut out the toxic and the distraction. Value the important things enough to create the ritual, find the support and set it into motion. That will help the time you get to play with your littles so much sweeter, because you won’t be distracted by your “could-have’s” or “should-have’s.” Also, if you need guidance or support, please reach out. Whether that’s to me or someone who can be there on a day-to-day basis.